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I am deeply grateful to everyone who said NO because it forced me to say YES to myself. Usually we’re waiting for someone externally to transform our lives and make things happen but only YOU can do that.
-Jay Shetty
“Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.”
Barack Obama
“In oneself lies the whole world and if you know how to look and learn, the door is there and the key is in your hand. Nobody on earth can give you either the key or the door to open, except yourself.”
~Jiddu Krishnamurti
“You have to break the habit of thinking that the solution to your problems is to rearrange things outside. The only permanent solution to your problems is to go inside and let go of the part of you that seems to have so many problems with reality.” —Michael Singer
"Depression is your avatar telling you it's tired of being the character you are trying to play."
--Jim Carey
👥 True Self / False Self: when we’re young, we borrow our identity from others (our false self). If given the freedom to explore, we get rid of false parts as we discover our true self - but, we often hold onto false parts (w/out realizing it) out of fear of disappointing others
"Bliss is Within. That you are.
Truth is Within. That you are.
Beauty is Within. That you are.
Love is Within. That you are.
This is [describing] your own Self."
~ H.W.L. Poonja, "Papaji" (20th century Indian Advaita mystic)
The American Psychological Association once invited William James to give a talk on the first 50 years of psychology research.
He simply said: “People by and large become what they think of themselves.”
Then, he left.
7/ Believing your story too much is what's called "self-as-content" or the conceptualized self.
It's the self as the mind says it is, with all of its beliefs and biases, not as you actually are: a dynamic biopsychosocial being capable of much more than you consciously know.
6/ Radical acceptance is believe you are GOOD ENOUGH
You are that 'good boy/girl' you heard your parents say (or didn't say)
That you are deserving of self-love and the love of others
Even if you are flawed, imperfect, and have work to do.
YOU ARE WHOLE.
4/ Thus, radical acceptance is essentially forgiveness.
Forgiving yourself for the mistakes you made & will make,
knowing you did/do the best you could/can
with the limited knowledge, resources, and support you had at the time
Even if it wasn't and isn't good enough.
Life hits different when you start giving yourself the same kind of love you've always given others.
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